Souls on Deck
Updated: Apr 10
“My friends, do not lose heart: We were made for these times.
Ours is not the task of fixing the entire world all at once, but of stretching out to mend the part of the world that is within our reach. Any small, calm thing that one soul can do to help another soul, to assist some portion of this poor suffering world, will help immensely. It is not given to us to know which acts or by whom, will cause the critical mass to tip toward an enduring good...
One of the most calming and powerful actions you can do to intervene in a stormy world is to stand up and show your soul. Soul on deck shines like gold in dark times. The light of the soul throws sparks, can send up flares, builds signal fires, causes proper matters to catch fire. To display the lantern of soul in shadowy times like these - to be fierce and to show mercy toward others; both are acts of immense bravery and greatest necessity.
Struggling souls catch light from other souls who are fully lit and willing to show it. If you would help to calm the tumult, this is one of the strongest things you can do.”
- Clarissa Pinkola Estes –
All souls on deck this morning.
Fear is a thief, my friends. It steals our ability to think, to plan, or to make rational decisions. It steals our joy, our compassion and our grace. I’m reminding you again: If you find yourself afraid, call a friend and say, "tag, you're it."
The very best thing for the human body budget is another human, and despite the fact that we need to maintain physical distance from one another, we have so many ways to connect with each other. Take a minute today and make a couple phone calls – I promise you’ll feel better for hearing the voice of someone you love. Laugh and tease, cry and rage, plan and scheme… just connect.
We can be real-time trauma mitigators for each other: #ListenProtectConnect
#Resiliency is our capacity to take in stride and self-regulate in acute and chronically toxic environments, and to bounce back or heal after trauma. Even in these times of very high, acute toxic stress, we can increase our #ResiliencyCapacitance through focus on how to foster and sustain our well-being. A crisis may seem a strange time to talk about creation of salutogenic models, but the truth is that this is actually a critical time for Americans to talk about and focus on wellbeing, not disease.
Every individual’s resiliency capacitance has 5 core components: Physical, Mental, Socio-Emotional, Spiritual and Financial. Within those core components, individual strategies for building and maintaining resiliency may vary widely but, regardless, we all have and must tend to all five.
Right now, every one of these five Core Components of Resiliency are being stress-tested, some with much greater severity than others. That means that right now, more than ever, it is important that we tend daily to what we can in each of these areas.
It is a pretty human thing to hide from or ignore the things we fear. In particular, it is a pretty human thing to procrastinate when fearful. Fear is nothing but a thief, my friends, and a cowardly, lying thief at that. Call it forth, name it, lay it out in front of others and watch it wither in the disinfecting sunlight of the day. Do not allow it to fester in the dark recesses of mind and soul – that only feeds and strengthens its power.
To which core component should you attend most urgently?
The easiest for me to recommend are physical resiliency strategies, because they’re pretty consistent across all human bodies. We all have the same basic physical requirements, so if you need somewhere to begin, here you go:
1) Sleep. Aim for 8 hours every night. Turn your damn phone off (best – leave it in another room). Set a ritual and aim to go to bed and to sleep at approximately the same time and rise at the same time every day. We massively underestimate the importance of good, restful sleep for our physical, mental and emotional help. Sleep, my friends, is when things heal. Guard that time.
2) Nourish your body. Its ok if you don’t know how to cook yet – there are hundreds or thousands of wonderful blogs and videos out there to help you start with easy, inexpensive, nourishing recipes that call for ingredients you have. This is also a great time to connect with a friend – you know you have someone who can talk you through it!
3) Hydrate. Most of us walk around on the edge of dehydration most of the time. We are so fortunate have access to unlimited clean, potable water in this country – take advantage of that. Hydrate to the point that you’re making bathroom trips every 90 minutes or so.
4) Move. For some that means a rigorous workout, for others a walk, yoga, etc. Whatever it is for you, do it daily for a minimum of 30 minutes. All kinds of places, including Peloton, are giving free online memberships for several months or are posting their workouts for free. Take advantage. Physical play counts, too – tag with the kids in the yard is good for everyone!
5) Breathe. Right now, almost every single one of us is breathing too shallowly. Several minutes of slow, deep, mindful breathing throughout the day will help to restore autonomic balance, and that is good for body, mind and soul.
I’ll touch on strategies in all five core components in the days to come. Meanwhile, rumble a bit with where you think YOU are in your personal resiliency capacitance, and connect with someone today to discuss what you’re doing to maintain that resiliency through these times.
Connect, hydrate, sleep, nourish body and soul, breathe, repeat.
Never forget that chocolate helps, too...
#COVID update later today